For all you daters out there, here are some topics you should definitely avoid on the first date, the second, and even the third:

Never talk about past dating experiences while on a date even if you think they’re entertaining. A first date doesn’t care to know about that guy who had an orgasm with his pants still on while you were making out in his Dad’s BMW. Some things are just better left unsaid. If your conversation keeps looping back to your dating horror stories, then a warning sign may go off that perhaps you have bad dating karma and maybe you’re the one with the problem. On the flip side, if you discuss all the fancy restaurants or places you’ve been too, then your date may feel a little intimidated and think you’re more interested in the free dinner than finding a quality mate.

Another big no no is mentioning “the ex”. Over and over again, we blow the first date by bringing up how bad the break up was and all the stuff he didn’t do right etc. Women sometimes mention this to make it clear that they won’t put up with this past behavior in the future. Also, if you’re still talking about your ex boy/girl then your date may think you’re not over it and want no part of being labeled a potential rebound. If your date asks you when your last relationship was and you don’t feel like discussing it you can respond by saying “the past is the past, and what’s important is that I’m here with you now”.

Lastly, negative Debbie Downer (SNL) subjects that are depressing, or conversation killers should not be discussed during the initial stage of dating. In the beginning, it is very important to be upbeat and engaging. We are often attracted to those that have the ability to gravitate upwards in life. You want him or her to walk away from the date feeling uplifted and energized by your company.  So try and be aware of practicing dating etiquette at all times so that you land that second date and have an excuse to go out and shop for a hot new outfit!